Why Discovering Your Purpose Won’t Make Your Life Monumental

Why Discovering Your Purpose Won’t Make Your Life Monumental

Discovering your purpose will make everything easier, right?

We read books to discover where to direct our life. We look for answers from our friends, family, co-workers, articles, news stories, and watch videos. In a relationship, we wonder whether our partner is the right one.

We want to discover the truth, so we wait for an answer, but it never comes. Yet, we’re constantly on the lookout for clues to decode our purpose. We wait for a promotion to move our career to the next level or hope for insight that makes everything click. We want an epiphany.

You could be reading this for a variety of reasons like:

  • How to discover your purpose 
  • How to know if you have the right purpose

In this article, you’ll learn the truth about discovering your purpose that could change the actions you pursue each day. You can also get a head start by watching my free Day Design Course

Flip the Script on Discovering Your Purpose 

Deep down, we hope that time and experience will reveal our purpose. We want our discovery to be empirical data—a tangible truth that we can hold up to the world and say, “here is my proof.” If only it were that straightforward. 

But in the same way that we cannot hold and touch love, we cannot hold and touch our purpose, or happiness for that matter. So how can we know if we’ve obtained it or not?  

As a Day Designer, our purpose is to be intentional with every hour of the day.  

We’ve been so focused on discovering our purpose that we’ve forgotten that it’s us who decides it. When we place discovery outside of ourselves, we turn into receivers waiting for answers to come via luck or chance. 

The hard truth is that we’re here to decide our purpose, not to discover it. 

We establish the purpose of each day and each moment. Instead of activities coming from a place of discovery, we decide the meaning, then test that idea. It’s a decision that places the responsibility cleanly on our shoulders. 

Some can’t bear the weight of such a burden, but you can.

What Indiana Jones Does Before He Leaves Home

We tap into our power by our decisions—we decide whether a conflict is a negative event or an opportunity, whether a natural disaster or social movement is the end of the world or the beginning of a better world. 

Our decision-making guides our actions and is in our complete control. 

When we wait to discover the truth, we are waiting on the outside, for reality to help us stumble on a discovery. 

We treat our purpose like a treasure that we have to discover, exploring the world like Indiana Jones to uncover it. We don’t realize that we’re already holding the treasure—it just needs a little elbow grease to shine it up. 

If we look closer, Indiana Jones already decided what was important before putting on his hat and jumped on a plane. He took a journey—not to discover—but because his mission required it. 

His expeditions didn’t reveal his purpose. They reinforced it. 

What brings him and his father together in The Last Crusade wasn’t making the most incredible discovery the world had ever known. It was realizing that what they’ve been missing all these years was an experience together. 

The decisions they made on their journey showed them their bond ran deeper than even the most sacred treasure, the Holy Grail. “Let it go,” Indiana’s father reminds him as they almost tumble into an abyss. 

In the end, they were happy to be alive and realized that the misunderstandings over the years had brought them closer to where they wanted to be. But it took a lot of experiments to get there. 

Testing Frequently Is Better Than Discovering Your Purpose

As a Day Designer, we learn more about ourselves and what we want by testing our ideas. The information from our experiments is what leads us closer to our goals. It’s not waiting to discover our purpose, then acting later. 

What can we do with one single day? How can we design it to the maximum, so it’s productive, not stressful but relaxed, and balanced? Doesn’t that sound nice if every day was like that?

We’re not just attacking our work with full intensity. We’re not leaving the other essential areas like family, friends, and kids who might be screaming in the other room because they need a diaper changed.

Our work is not our job but balancing all the aspects of our life as an integrated whole. It’s becoming 360.

We handle all the elements to the best of our abilities through our decisions, not through discovery. We empower ourselves by choosing what’s important, not waiting to discover what’s essential. 

We can design our day by handling all of these things. It happens by making intentional decisions, not through discovery. 

We hope that we’ll discover our purpose one day, but we can decide what it is right now. When we start making decisions around it, we can also find that our quest changes. We thought we’re pursuing the holy grail when in fact, we were after inner peace, for example. 

Experimentation leads to clarity. 

It’s Better to Decide Than to Discover

We can make a new decision at any moment. So today, flip from discovery to decision. There is no right or wrong purpose or one ordained from above. 

There will be challenges and a long road of doubts. We can’t plan for 100% prediction no matter how much we learn. We have an opportunity to decide when and how we work, how we interact, how we make money, how we go on dates, how we clean our house—everything, including our purpose. 

Discovering your purpose is as simple as deciding what it is. This truth is both the ultimate freedom and responsibility. 

Our choice is to decide. If you’re looking for a different way to test ideas and improve your work-life balance, check out my Day Design Course. It’s a free video series that will work your core ideas from my Day Design Training program. I hope you get loads of value from it

How to Actually Live Your Purpose Like a Boss

How to Actually Live Your Purpose Like a Boss

Do you find it difficult to live your purpose? How often do you stop to ask what’s driving your daily actions? What about your plans for the future?

We all have similar goals—we want to be more productive and have time for the things that we deem essential. We’d like to peacefully balance work and life, but how often do we feel like we are in control of what truly matters? We intend to do so many things, if only we had more time.

In this article, we’ll address common issues that can hold you back from living your purpose. By the end, you’ll have a fresh perspective on discovery and decision, which will bring insight into how to live your purpose.

Here’s the points we’ll cover if you want to skip ahead:

Why It’s Hard to Live Your Purpose

The way we approach our day—creating to-do lists and working as much as we can before our brains are exhausted—doesn’t bring us closer to understanding who we are.

Reality check: an unclear identity makes it impossible to nail down a purpose worthy of devotion.

Most of us think that we know ourselves, but as Peter Drucker said in Managing Oneself, we are often wrong.

Instead of sorting the things that weigh on our hearts, we run down the conveyor belt without stopping to ask why we’re there in the first place.

The Reason Why We Lack Purpose

Our responsibilities are more complicated than ever before. Running a business, developing relationships, raising children, improving our health, paying rent—the list of things we need to accomplish is overwhelming.

What about happiness? Fulfillment? Questions that once seemed fundamental to our future have turned borderline absurd.

It’s easier to keep going than taking time away from our busy lives. Grinding it out seems the only way to succeed. But stopping to figure out our purpose? Does anyone have time for that anymore?

The combination of a global market and 24/7 machine keeps us moving but not going anywhere in particular. We’re distracted by flash and have forgotten how to go inward to decide what we want.

Going inward is our opportunity to take back control of our day, week, and ultimate direction.

We Are Powerful When We Decide

With Day Design, our goal is to define the purpose of each moment. We design each day intentionally, making use of our most potent tool—TIME.

Achieving our goals comes from our ability to make effective decisions and use our time to take meaningful actions. Instead of waiting for the Universe to align with our wishes, we can align ourselves to it.

Wherever you are right now and whatever you may be doing, can you answer this question: what is the purpose of this moment? If you’re not sure how to answer, don’t worry.

Day Design will show you how to get better at knowing the purpose of each moment. You’ll have a better understanding of what you want and how to get it.

Spoiler alert: You’ll never be able to live your purpose if you’re always trying to discover it. Your purpose isn’t a matter of discovery, it’s a matter of decision.

We Decide How to Live Our Purpose (But We Often Let Others) 

In certain ways, we’re more productive than ever. We’re successful at our business, or maybe have a great relationship, but how does the picture look as a whole? Is our productivity balanced?

As Day Designers, our goal is to balance all areas of our lives that bring us fulfillment.

The five areas of 360 Productivity are:

  • Relationships
  • Health
  • Spiritual
  • Work
  • Community

Many questions run through the river of our thoughts when we start something new. Is it the right time, can we handle this, do we have the right skills? 

Instead of waiting for a breakthrough discovery, we can decide what we want and go after it. It’s up to each one of us to decide what kind of life we want and work towards it through actions.

It’s not luck or financial status that creates purpose—it’s purely a decision that we have the power to make.

We are at a crossroads—instead of making a deal with the devil for fame or fortune, we are making a deal with ourselves. It’s us and us alone who decide the meaning of our lives.

A strong purpose will act as the glue to hold all 360 areas together.

As a Day Designer, we are at this wild junction between fact and fiction, ideas and reality—it’s our job to create what we imagine. We can be Leonardo Da Vinci in our own way.

The purpose we decide will evolve and adapt as we generate more actions. We’re experimenters of ideas, not observers. We’re scientists that generate actions across each 360 area. This is how we get closer to fulfillment.

Why We Become Indecisive About Living Our Purpose

Indecision is what stands between us and what we want. It’s not a lack of skill or ability that keeps us from reaching our goals. If we don’t yet have the skills we need, we can learn anything we choose. 

When we act, we get feedback from reality that helps us refine our next action—we replace indecision with open-minded experimentation

This is what we strive for as Day Designers

We know that it’s actions that will take us closer to what we want. We delay because we are not sure where to begin. We get stuck thinking about our goals, doubting if what we’re doing is correct.

Our goals to get in shape, start a business, or find a partner are too far away from where we are right now—we’re not ready, we don’t have enough information, or it’s not the right time are a few things that we say to ourselves. 

Instead of taking action, we turn “figuring it out” into an excuse for being indecisive. We get lost in the mechanics of our goals—the new diet, proper exercise shoes, workout schedule, marketing plan, or timing for a difficult conversation

We’re procrastinating because we are afraid.

The problem is that years have gone by, and we still have the same goals. We’ve grown exhausted thinking about what we want instead of testing. Our goals are dusty and distorted, crammed on a shelf. 

It’s time to bring them out to the light of reality.

We Need to Become Day Designers

There’s a reason why the wisdom of the Greeks to “know thyself” has survived for thousands of years—it’s the foundation you need to live your purpose.

Living your purpose takes effort just like anything else. No matter who we ask, even if they’re the wisest person on earth (like the Oracle of Delphi), no one can tell you what your purpose is.

The Day Design Course is a free video series that walks you through how to be productive in the important areas of your life. My hope is that it will help you decide your path, instead of waiting to discover it.